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Being a lesbian and having to tell a story of another lesbian on how she is treated in the community; almost being raped and beaten up for what she is, is painful for me. The worst to hear is not being accepted by your own family; the people you shared a womb and breast with, the mother who gave birth to you; spent months carrying you. How is the community going to accept you if your family will not?

I have not experienced these hardships living in the townships; maybe it’s because I have not come out yet. I am a lesbian and I am proud but after what I heard from on the streets during Vox pops (random interviews) I don’t think I will ever come out. The way the people were talking, it was scary hearing them saying, ‘lesbians are not supposed to live, they deserve to be killed because homosexuality is a sin. God never created a woman to fall in love with another woman and it’s against black culture. We are embarrassing and humiliating the black community and our families.’

I do not believe this is true. We can’t help the way we feel. If it was not created by God then why do we even have these feelings, not just feelings but strong feelings? How many lesbians have to suffer and die before we are accepted in our community and by our families?

How long is our government going to continue just talking and still remain quiet? They write a constitution that ensures everyone has a right to equality but people are violating our rights. The government does nothing as if to say we deserve what the people are doing to us.

I think as long as the government is not teaching people to practise what they preach in the constitution we still have a long way to go and to suffer. As long as there is no political member saying this is wrong, that homosexuals deserve to be treated fairly like everybody else, violent hate crimes will continue. There is nothing more hurtful than being violated for who and what you are.

I really wish people would wake up and realise that this is happening and it’s not going to end without leadership, dialogue and tolerance. Until then what does not kill me will only make me stronger, we are here to stay, in the closet and in the open.

By Hlomela Msesele

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